Mastering the art of learning patience the right way
Why do most of us fail to reach our goals or are swept away in the crowd?
Ever wondered or figured out reasons for the question above?
A lot of you are still wondering what the answer to the above question can be and a lot of you might be having answers with you but still stuck with the next steps. Nothing in this world was built in a single day, everything that was or is going to get built is taking time at its own pace.
What is the reason behind all of this?
Be impatient when things are not in our control. When we don’t have patience in anything we do, we fail to achieve our goals most of the time. In this weird world of getting things instantly done with a single touch, we are not willing to wait for hours together even if the work is on high priority and want to get things done on the go.
Let us take an example of the internet world today: With the advent of technology and its advancements, Gen Z and the millennials are always dissolved in technology or other social media platforms. How many people use the internet today? About 4.88 billion, which constitutes about 62% of the total world population
Source - Data Reportal
Most of us are impatient, even though the internet is the fastest means of information retrieval. The average page load time is 15.3 seconds, according to Google. It also says that 53% of the users abandon websites that take more than 3 seconds to load. Seems like the users are already impatient. When it comes to anything in this world, from doing an experiment to creating a software, all it takes is lot of patience and mastery. Things will go wrong if we try to get it done fast.
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One movement of Impatience may ruin a whole life.
-Chinese Proverb
Patience is a necessity that everyone should possess. With time moving at a faster pace thing will develop and start taking less time than usual. Even if it does, you shouldn’t lose your cool when things get delayed, and you are on the state of getting frustrated for every other thing that is connected to that piece.
In the meanwhile, have you learned the right way to stay cool in your pressurizing times?
If your answer is yes, then you would be able to control a lot of things.
How to learn patience the right way
There are a lot of ways where you want to get the right set of mindsets to keep your life moving at the pace that you are designed to do so. How do you do that?
1. Remind yourself of the importance of patience
If you are somewhere in your work or in any meetings, you tend to hear different methods and ways that might annoy you at times. What are you going to get out of it? Nothing more than delay in all the work that you do. Sometimes it so happens that your frustration can cause a lot of effect on your attitude and behavior towards the other person, creating a sense of bad image.
If you don’t learn the importance of being patient, you will end up with problems and even at times people around you might grow faster than you think. It is not always about that either, as these reasons will help you during your greatest challenges in your future endeavors.
Also, when you have the will to stay calm, you are spreading energy around you. This energy can bring in the positivity that you need and would help you achieve the greatest of all time in your life. It is just like the rubber band; you pull yourself through the calmness and you would be pushed towards your goals at a faster rate. It is really important to understand the importance of being patient.
2. Understand the importance of your work
It is really important for us to understand the importance of our work and also the schedules we have in place. When you know which work is to be prioritized first, you really know how it can help you achieve your set of tasks for the day. It will keep you calm and composed whenever you are in your office.
If you don’t, then you can start dumping in a lot of work on your plate which would create chaos at the end of the day. When this exaggerates in your mind on a daily basis, you tend to lose your cool and change your behavior more on the negative end causing a lot of disturbance in your surroundings.
This will also help you understand the set of tasks that will take hours together and the ones that can be solved on the go, always keeping your mind on a good track. In one way, it would also reduce stress as you would start taking only that amount of work you can handle for the day and also cutting off on the work that is not important at all for the time being. You will indeed increase your productivity.
3. Cut off things that bring negativity to you
Frustration will always be on top of your head, and you will lose your calm when you come across things that are negative to you or cause it. When you have that state of negative mind you tend to do things that are not at all related to the work you do. You start wasting time, you start doing things in a way that is petty, you lose a lot of yourself, you start acting weird, and so on and so forth.
What if you cut it off?
Isn’t that going to bring you happiness and you would live a life that you want to or have been willing to for a long period of time? It is an obvious yes. Quite a lot of the time you do well when you come out of toxicity. You understand how to deal with your surroundings and also the people you work with.
It is good to be on that side of the life rather than being on the negative side of the life which can cause you to be impatient always. Cut off that brings in negativity, toxicity, madness on the lower end, and work on being more productive and being positive in all the possible situations you would come across.
4. Breathers will help you achieve the sense of being calm
Whenever or wherever you are, you might come across different situations that might make you lose your cool. You will become a rage to everyone around you and people would want to leave you without leaving any reason for you to get back again.
Let us say you have an important meeting to attend, and you are stuck somewhere in traffic. You always get frustrated seeing those red lights on the streets as you always have thought that you would be late (An example of being pessimistic). Just to understand, can you make the traffic rush faster? Just because you got late, it doesn’t mean you have a silly reason to blame yourself.
There are hundreds, sorry thousands and millions of people who have to wait. Did you ever think about them, did you ever see how happy people are when they do get a chance to wait in the traffic. It’s because they know they have something to back up their reasons with. It’s all about perception, which you might lack, and people don’t. That is why you always lose your cool when you come across such situations.
Deep breathing will help you down in a very effective way. When you breathe or have a relaxation breathing, you tend to send a message to the brain that things can be in control when you are calm. When your brain receives the message, it teaches your body, and in turn your BP levels and stress levels eventually drop.
5. Time is a valuable gift, understand its importance
You will be able to grab or attract things when you wait. Time is a valuable gift that you can give to anyone, and it’ll do wonders to you when you respect it. When you aren’t able to understand its importance, you will end up fastening things and creating problems.
When you end up understanding the importance, you give time to everything and build up patience. It is true that when you want to achieve something you need to dedicate time and hard work always, if you fail to give the time, you fail in everything as it leaves your mind with lot of negativities. When this increases exponentially, you end up in failures rather than in success.
When you learn to respect time, you end up saying that you are ready to be patient enough to get things done. When you practice it during your daily work time or exercise you create a sense of calmness in you making you a little happier than ever. You will master it soon once you get a hang of it.
6. If you learn to accept, you learn to stay composed
The way you accept things decides how far you are going to go. If you learn to accept everything around you, you tend to be a learner always.
In what ways?
Let us give you an example of you writing a code and you happen to see an error which you aren’t able to fix. There are two things, seeing the others around you pass, it might create a sense of frustration in your mind coz you weren’t able to accept that you failed. If you accept that fact, then in the end you learn where did you go wrong because acceptance will bring in that equilibrium you need to get the problem solved.
When you get the equilibrium, you are telling your mind that things can go wrong, and we need feel bad about it or lose ourselves. Acceptance is one of the keys to maintaining everything in some or the other way.
Life is wonderful and it has lot in its space that you can witness with passing time. Being impatient or frustrated will not get you anywhere but to a road filled with negativity and full of traffic which you won’t be able to bear at one point in your life.
You will achieve nothing when you lose your cool. When you learn to be patient, you tend to design your mind and body to dissolve in the patterns of your surroundings. You get that humble attitude in yourself to wait and see that things are going as per your schedule and plans, and you don’t have to rush during any point in time.
Leave all those things that you want to fasten up behind. Just learn to respect the time and it will reward you some day or the other. A lot of people don’t wait and end up being lost, a lot of people don’t listen and end up failing, a lot of people rush and end up in accidents.
To lose patience is to lose the battle
-Mahatma Gandhi